Friday, May 23, 2008

Happy B'day

Its SH's B'day today.

I wish You a wonderful life. And pray that each of your dreams becomes a reality. SH is a very caring and considerate person. I surely take undue advantage of SH, is the popular legend that circulates among family. But then he is the way he is. He is efficient in everything that he does. He works overtime, is an MBA student, in spite of that I can't complain of any negligence. Living so far from family and close friends the only true companion I have is SH and he is well aware of that. Like true pals we share common activities, hiking, swimming and daydreaming and then lengthy discussions of those dreams.
I am quite forgetful and like a true mate he never lets me forget my chores, to do lists, faults , shortcomings, also the fact that I love him. On Valentine's day, he presented me with a golden Vaio laptop with personalized inscription. As I sit and type, I see the inscription in front of me which reads bright and happy that I love SH.Yes, its only me who needs this reminder. Isn't it enough that in two years he bought me the third laptop after I broke the last two. Courage and sense of humor in plenty, I dare say.
He is caring. He is a softy at heart while he tries to show a tough exterior. But almost everyone can see through that he has a tough time saying no to anyone, especially a friend. He is creative and he has plans to write a book on the infinite names that he has for me.

This Year SH's B'day falls on a long weekend and so I hope to celebrate it the whole weekend. And as ardent Bengali what better gift than substantial indulgence with victual pleasures. So I planned a whole weekend full of a new surprise each day for SH. I made payash as a dinner special since it was already his birthday in India. At midnight I sprang the almond-chocolate cake and the gift, sang the birthday song and spent the night watching "Gladiator" again. The next day I made malai curry and roasted garlic potatoes his favorites among the rest. the cheesecake comes soon.
In all this one thing that I have learnt is that its very difficult to keep secrets from the person whom you love and have always shared your inner thoughts. But be able to surprise them and be able to make their eyes shine like a child is priceless.

Another lesson well learnt and reinforced each time is that happiness is in small things. watching a movie together, a relaxing massage, a lazy day at the beach and sharing cool water from a bottle after a tough hike. These are the things that make us happy and bring us closer and give us the strength to pull through the tough times: like when I have my mood swings, when one of us is running a high temperature and needs some love, when one has to work overtime, study late nights and spend more time on group studies, while the other has to sit home alone, skip get together parties and miss the India trips because the other one does not have a holiday time.

But As the years pass we are getting still closer . I appreciate every effort that You make for me and I am truly grateful to God for this beautiful life.
A Very Happy B'day to You Hero!

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Congratulations Kalyan

Early morning I open my inbox and there is this beautiful mail from my friend Kalyan announcing the Birth of his daughter. I was stunned for a few seconds. I knew it that he was going to become a dad and I know as does everyone who knows Kalyan that he can easily grab the best Dad award in near future but still when these beautiful moments come they always come with such unexpected emotions. I am so happy and excited for him. And I so much wish that I could be nearer to his family to be a part of it, share it and hold it in my memory for eternity.

He is one of my best friends. I love and respect him so much. He made my stay in Delhi so much pleasant and easy. Every problem and difficulty I had I would run to him and he would with his calm assurance would help me hurdle it away. He is this most adorable IITian that I have ever met who does not try to rub it in the fact that he is an IITian. He is Fun-loving, helpful and the most generous person that I have every met. I remember how one of his cousins was so jealous that Kalyan and me could be such good friends and tried to play the ladka-ladki bogus card but it did not affect our relationship. I knew that the he was a person who could be trusted at any hour and he never failed me. He was my math teacher when I took my GRE exams and I can vouch for his patience. We used to have booze parties at his place when Soumen another of my cool friends and Kalyan's cousin whom I thank all times to have introduced me to Kalyan. And some friends of Soumen, all of us would eat, drink and sing together. We once had a bonfire on the terrace of Kalyan's apartment my first and last terrace bonfire.

God must really love me to let me have a friend like him.

In between I was a little upset with him because he did not attend my marriage because of some prior engagements. But that's a thing I can not hold against a friend who has been nothing but the best to me and to everyone who meets him.

And now my loving friend and his very, very beautiful wife Sweta are blessed with a sweet daughter. I can't wait for my trip to India so that I can meet him and his most adorable family.

I miss you a lot and I constantly talk about you, my friend. Everyone must have a friend like you who makes us a better person.
All the very best to you and my heartiest congratulations.

Monday, May 12, 2008

Rules of Engagement!

This is an interesting article I read in Vanity Fair the April'8 issue.
Not only is it funny and keeps one entertained but is also quite useful so I think I will store it for future use if need be :-))
its in two parts for the husband and wife with a coloumn division. but since I can't do that on the blog I will do the Don't for the wife first and then the men.
Dont't For the Wives
>> Don't expect your husband to be an angel. you would get very tired of him if he were.
>> Don't let him have to search the house for you. Listen for his latch key and meet him on the threshold.
>> Don't let your husband wear a violet tie with grass-green socks. if he is unhappily devoid of the color sense, he must be forcibily restrained, but- don't be sarcastic about your husband's taste in dress.
>> Don't try too hard to regulate your husband's pleasures, and dont be jealous if they don't always include you.
>> Don't try to excite your husband's jealousy by flirting with other men. you may succeed better than you want to. it is like playing with tigers and edged tools and volcanoes. all in one.
>> Don't bother your husband with a stream of sensless chatter if you can see that he is fatigued.
>> Don't forget to wish your husband good morning when he sets off to the office. He will feel the lack of your good bye kiss all day.
>> Don't moralize by way of winning back the love that seems to be waning. Make yourself extra charming and arrange delicious dinners which include all your husband's favorite dishes.

Don't for husbands
>> Don't be surprised, or annoyed, or disappointed, to find, after treating your wife for years as a featherbrain, that you have made her one, and that she fails to rise to the occasion when you need her help.
>> Don't slouch. No one who cares for a man like to see him acquire a slouching habit.
>> Don't forget that character is more important than genius. If your wife is a true woman, dont worry about the rest.
>> Don't scrowl or look severe. Cultivate a pleasant expression even if nature hasn't blessed you with one.
>> Don't drop, when alone with your wife, the little courtesies youwould offer to other women. For instance, always get up to open the door, as she would for a lady guest.
>> Don't insist upon having the last word. If you know when to drop an argument you are a wise man.
>> Don't argue that a new hat isn't necessary because there is nothing visibily wrong with with the one she is wearing. You probably have forgotten that this is its third season, but she hasn't.
>> Don't give up cricket, or football ... or whatever outdoor sport you have been accustomed to just because you are married. Atheletics will keep you from becoming flabby.
>> Don't selfishly refuse to go out in the evening because you have been among other people all day. Remember that your wife hasn't, and a change is good for her.
This is a great piece and I will surely have to come back to review it with my own experiences of it.

Monday, May 5, 2008

Comedy live, Youthfulness alive!!

Last year at a friend's B'day party I met this sweet vivacious girl. We connected instantly and I made a note to myself to keep in touch with her. But that did not happen and we lost touch. But I did keep thinking of her often because I felt that we shared the same wavelength. Luckily, we got in touch some time ago. But each time we made a plan to meet, something came up. So when she made a plan for a comedy club, I did not have a heart to negate.

It was a beautiful Saturday when the four of us met. All of us connected instantly that was a start to a great evening. My friend's husband had pre-planned the dinner venue. We had dinner at this small but bustling Mexican place. Everyone being in a much vibrant and adventurous mood, ordered a superabundant table. Quails, rabbit, clams, scallops, nothing amiss. The food was excellent and the company fun. With a happy stomach we were ready for the comedy place. Punchline is San Francisco's prime comedy club.

The show had started when we reached. The table we were escorted, was in clear view of the performers. We missed the first stand up comedian but there were still 2 more guest comedians before the featured stand up comedian, Gregg Poop took the stage. I think his name itself has a funny ring to it. To be born with a name like Mr. Poop... and you are already on the way to comedy club!! Poop's gained popularity through the popular show "Whose line is it anyways?" That was hosted and, if am not wrong produced by Drew Carey, the one who tries to be funny but, according to me tries just too hard. but the guys that he picks for the show are just too good, very intelligent and very funny. Each comic had the calibre to hold the audience attention on their own and so can you think how good they were with four of such potential running for the trophy. That show made me want to be one of the "last comic standing" right there among them. I was a big fan of theirs . This comedy reality show was on of the lineup for Monday comedy and I was always stationed in front of the television set at the hour that it aired ready with my laughter. That was in 2001- 2003. So I was looking forward to some laugh time which reminded me of those "youthful" days full of sunshine.

Being late wasn't a drawback as we got one of the seat that was right in the front but had a side view of the stage. Not bad at all when you are sure to laugh loud and the hardest and catch the attention of the comedian and he would look at you more than once to get an acknowledgement. One of the rules of the comedy club was that minimum of 2 drinks each person. That is called loot in India. I mean you have already snatch quite a bit from my purse already and instead of offering me a free drinks with the roasted peanut I am forced to buy not one but 2 drinks? Really, are the stand ups that bad that you are worried that I will not find him funny enough without the concoction?

We had a good time laughing and drinking. But truly, if I am asked to narrate the jokes then I will have to ask pardon. In general there we quite a few and some Sexually intended jokes. Which reminded me of some of my BONG connections who complained that jesters in America means sex they can not go any further than that. And then there were gay and lesbian jokes which we laughable but also could widely be put into the sex category. I remember Gregg had some good joke for San Francisco and more specific to the mural at the back of the stage. The joke were spontaneous and funny. But by then I had got so used to laughing that I was laughing at the "jokes" even when I couldn't hear them properly because of my own laughter. Yeah! I said I am a laugh-out-loud person. So I can not narrate a full perfect joke from the comedy night. It ended 30 min before midnight.

Later the four of us had our own comedy discussion, whether we were laughing at the jokes was it the double drinks bubbling!
All in all the show was fun. And a first of something I was interested for quite sometime and the experience was a good one in good company.

If you are in good company nothing can stop it from being a success.